It's that time of year. You may be dreading your staff Christmas Party, or your spouses or you may be excited about it. Either way, if you use these simple tips, not only will you have a good time but people will remember you fondly.
I developed this material for an fun corporate event I spoke at (there was a bikini fashion show, need I say more?) and it is based on material we teach to businesses on the power of recognition.
- Acknowledge anybody you make eye contact with. Sometimes we forget that recognition can be as simple as saying hello.
- Commit to speaking your mind. So often in life we have to edit and mute
what we say but that habit will not
help you be the life of the party. Your contribution is important to the success of the party. So relax, have fun and take a chance. Un-mute yourself and remove your edit
function because a party is always better when everyone at the party is contributing. Your contribution is important but...
- Be clear that the intention behind your communications is to help. Everyone is a critic is a very true statement. We all have our opinion on how things could be better. However, if you want to be the life of the party, this is not the time to channel your inner critic. Instead, why not make it your goal at the party, that whenever you are speaking to your fellow guests, your intention is to help the person to have a good time. Seems easy enough right?
- All that is not given is lost. At some point you are going to be impressed by something you encounter. it might be someones shoes, the decor, an funny comment, beautiful eyes etc. When you are impressed, say so. You have an opportunity to make someone feel good. If you don't, that opportunity may be lost forever.
- Become great at accepting praise. It is true that we are usually our own worst critic (at least until we get married and even then we are still a close second) but if you want to be the life of the party, you must become great at seeing yourself as worthy. You have worked hard to get where you are in life so enjoy it. When someone pays you a compliment let it in. Allow yourself a victory once in a while. When you truly let the good stuff in, it will give you the confidence you need to be the life of the party.
- Look for
opportunities to contribute. One of the reasons people love inviting me to parties (I am available by the way) is that I love to find the quiet person in the corner and strike up a conversation. So try it. If someone is by themselves say hello. Try to discover something interesting about them. You will likely discover that these quiet people are often the most interesting. (and because they are usually good listeners they almost always have great gossip.)
- What you put out you get back. What goes around, comes around. You get what you give. We have all heard this before but it is especially true in the context of being the life of the party. I promise you that if you help other people to have a good time then you will have a good time too.
If you use these tips at your corporate functions you will be a positive contribution to the event and will be remembered as such.
Some final thoughts. What would happen if you used these tips everyday? What difference would it make to your workplace if everyone in your office was doing it?
Food for thought.
Happy Holidays,
Rnold Smith
I developed this material for an fun corporate event I spoke at (there was a bikini fashion show, need I say more?) and it is based on material we teach to businesses on the power of recognition.
- Acknowledge anybody you make eye contact with. Sometimes we forget that recognition can be as simple as saying hello.
- Commit to speaking your mind. So often in life we have to edit and mute what we say but that habit will not help you be the life of the party. Your contribution is important to the success of the party. So relax, have fun and take a chance. Un-mute yourself and remove your edit function because a party is always better when everyone at the party is contributing. Your contribution is important but...
- Be clear that the intention behind your communications is to help. Everyone is a critic is a very true statement. We all have our opinion on how things could be better. However, if you want to be the life of the party, this is not the time to channel your inner critic. Instead, why not make it your goal at the party, that whenever you are speaking to your fellow guests, your intention is to help the person to have a good time. Seems easy enough right?
- All that is not given is lost. At some point you are going to be impressed by something you encounter. it might be someones shoes, the decor, an funny comment, beautiful eyes etc. When you are impressed, say so. You have an opportunity to make someone feel good. If you don't, that opportunity may be lost forever.
- Become great at accepting praise. It is true that we are usually our own worst critic (at least until we get married and even then we are still a close second) but if you want to be the life of the party, you must become great at seeing yourself as worthy. You have worked hard to get where you are in life so enjoy it. When someone pays you a compliment let it in. Allow yourself a victory once in a while. When you truly let the good stuff in, it will give you the confidence you need to be the life of the party.
- Look for opportunities to contribute. One of the reasons people love inviting me to parties (I am available by the way) is that I love to find the quiet person in the corner and strike up a conversation. So try it. If someone is by themselves say hello. Try to discover something interesting about them. You will likely discover that these quiet people are often the most interesting. (and because they are usually good listeners they almost always have great gossip.)
- What you put out you get back. What goes around, comes around. You get what you give. We have all heard this before but it is especially true in the context of being the life of the party. I promise you that if you help other people to have a good time then you will have a good time too.
Some final thoughts. What would happen if you used these tips everyday? What difference would it make to your workplace if everyone in your office was doing it?
Food for thought.
Happy Holidays,
Rnold Smith
